Gifts of Love

Do you really believe as parents, you are always right? Yes, in a way, you do. After all, your children may be too young to make any decisions for themselves.

Well, you are right when:

v    You decide to enroll your children in the best school in town

Most parents believe that their children deserve the best. That is why you choose the best schools. You believe that your children will get better education there. You believe they will befriend children from good families. You also have confidence in the educators in the school.

      You are right here. Good schools produce good pupils; and eventually responsible citizens of the country.  There are many good schools around. If not, and when you can afford it, a private school is a good option too.

v    You decide your children should learn only what is important

In most cases, you are right. Children have very short attention span. It is good to keep them focus all the time. They need to learn a lot of things in such a short time. So, as any loving parent, you decide for them.

Your children will be grateful to you for they do not know what is good or bad when they are young. You have been through, so, you know better. You believe that besides school, your children will need to attend some creative and skill classes.

v    You always believe that your own children are better

Children like the fact that their parents are always proud of them. You boost their confidence when you show your support for them. You tell your children how proud you are of them.

Of course, you do not compare your own children to others openly. Yet, you do and will not hide your pride when your children did something to make you proud.

v    You are strict with your children

You know instilling discipline in children takes a lot of time and patience. That is why you are strict with them. A ‘yes’ is always a ‘yes’ and there is no ‘other wise’. You develop special time tables for them so that they do not have time to be ‘lazy’.

Your children will know you mean business. Although they may find you not ‘so friendly’ at all times, they grow to be disciplined and much better persons. Many times, you have to sacrifice for their sake.

v    You voice your expectations to them 

Your children will not know what you expect from them unless you tell them. You will be surprised to see that they are keen to show you their capabilities too! You know they have tried their best even though they have accomplished below your expectation.

      When children know their parents’ expectations, they seldom have reasons not to achieve. They may not want to do what you want, yet, they will be happy when they receive the attention later.              

v    You decide to allow your children a break

All work and no play is not going to make a child another ‘genius’. You decide to take them to the coming funfair or a movie as a treat for their hard work. Bravo! You are on the right track.

Children need ‘encouragement in action’ and not just some mouth praises. They want to be able to feel your involvement in their lives too. Taking them somewhere for a change will definitely help them to enjoy being your children.

v    You want your children to achieve their own dreams

Most parents aspire to see their children to be successful in one way or another. You are the kind of parent who believes your children will be successful with little help from you.

      You give them your moral support as well as love wherever they are. You encourage them to stand again when they fall. You may need to nudge your children sometimes but they will make it.

v    You sacrifice some of your social time to be with your children

Children grow up fast. Soon, they are embarrassed to be seen with their parents. It is so ‘not cool’ to their peers. You know that, right?

So, you make up more time by sacrificing your social time with your friends or special groups when they are young.

       You stay at home to be with them and do things with them. You know your sacrifices will eventually pay back. Children learn best during the first few years of their live. Their best teachers are their own parents.   

So, you see, you have made some right decisions. You know you are in the right track; your children will be all right. You also know that your children will be grateful to you for making all these decisions for them!

 

 

 

By Frencessca   A freelance writer by profession. Also an English Language instructor. Has been promoting a series of module; ‘Write at Home’ on English writing for young Malaysian learners of 10 -12 years old. Particulars of the modules can be found here: http://freewebs.com/fren123 http://writeathome.weebly.com/index.html http://all4webs.com/y/h/fren123/home.html   Frencessca can be reached at freyin@gmail.com