Gifts of Love

Protect your children,

They need your love and understanding

to forget all unhappiness!

All children like to be noticed by adults.

All they want is an acceptance of who they are.

Showering affection on your children

is not enough;

They need your attention and guidance too!

Parents believe that children will learn better if they are sent to nurseries at an earlier age. This maybe true. However, all children are not the same. Some are ready to socialize, yet some are not.

Young children have the fear that their parents will leave them. So, parents need to assure them that they are always around. Spend the day with them if necessary. Introduce them to their teachers or caretakers. Help them to get familiarize with the place. share with them the new experience.

Do not leave your child alone under the care of others, not even a trusted relative on the first few days. Unless your child is familiarized with the new surrounding, you will need to be there.This is so to give your child the emotional support he needs.

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Children love 'heroes'. In fact, every child has his very own 'hero'. The 'hero' may change as a child grows, however, the admiration for someone is still there. Parents always complain their children never look up to them as the heroes. Yet, what did the parents do while their children were growing up?

Here are some simple tips from a parent:

1.  Set good examples

All children are great observers. They observe and learn from the people around them especially their parents and siblings. They do not choose and pick in this learning process.

Their innocent minds are always learning and growing. As adults, you know what is right and wrong, but as children, they do not. As their parents and guardians, you have the right to be ‘good’ and ‘living’ examples.

2.  Actions speak the loudest

When you promise your children something, fulfill the promise as soon as possible. Do not think just because they are children, they would not remember what you have said yesterday.

Children have good memories. They can remember what you have said some time ago, when you have long forgotten it. They can be mischievous too. They know their parents’ weakness more than anyone else. They use the weakness to get the attention for themselves.

When you have promised your children to do something for them or with them, get it done. You do not want to live with the guilt of lying to your children. Be what you want your children to follow. When they saw you have fulfilled your promises, they remember it for life.

3.  Cut out swearing words from your vocabulary.

Some parents revealed that they could not help themselves. They have lived with the 'swearing' words all their lives.

Children learn fast. They never stop to ask if the words are acceptable or not. By the time you realized it, your children may have been reprimanded many times in school.

A hero never swears. If you feel the need to, replace the swearing words with something else …… count one to ten or take a few deep breaths.

4.  Spend quality time with family

Children grow up very fast. However, they do not forget fast enough. They will always wonder why you are so busy all the time.

When you just spend an hour a day with them, those hours in their growing years are the most precious in their lives. You do not have to buy any expensive toys or clothes for them. They just need your quality time and undivided attention.

Do something with them. Watch a television program, read a short story together, carpentering, gardening, etc. Some parents even start a hobby with their children.

These are simple actions that are precious to them.

5.  Avoid gambling

Parents who gamble find their children follow their footsteps soon enough. At first, the children just want to know why their parents like gambling. Then when the excitement sets in, they are already heavy gamblers.

Gambling destroys. When possible, point this out to your children. If you are a gambler, stop now when you can. Your children will learn from you when to stop before it is too late.

6.  Avoid gossiping and complaining in front of your children

Parents do not really mind complaining and gossiping in front of their children! However, children are good duplicators. They just repeat what they heard even if they do not know the meaning of the what was said.

You will find it embarrassing if your children repeat what you said about your neighbors to them! Do not blame your children for their innocence. Blame yourself for not being careful.

7.  Instill in them the good values you have learned

You have the responsible to pass on the good values to your children. You have the right to do so because you want them to grow up to be responsible people. Remember, your children carry on your name and bloodline. It is good that they know the difference between black and white and gray while they are young.

8.  Teach them about love and kindness 

Young children do not know what is love and kindness. Unless you explain and show them the actions, they will never know. That is why you have to be the first and always sets good examples at home.

9. Praise your children for their little achievements

Parents should always praise their children, even if the achievement is too small to be noticed. To a child, that is encouragement. It will help to build their confidence and good attitude. However, do not overdo it.

10. Reprimand your children when they do wrong

Some parents think reprimanding their children will make them unpopular. This is very wrong. Children who muddled up ought to be reprimanded immediately. If not, the confusion will grow with them. They will blame you for not telling them off when they were young.

Children are like seedlings. They need to be showered by attention, love, values and many good things. They cannot get them anywhere else except from you, their parents. So, do something about it, heroes!

When they grow into strong plants, you are truly their ‘hero’.